The Reason Why our Society should Stop Giving Excuses for Rapists who cannot Control Themselves

“I can’t control myself.”

So your sense of control depends upon the size of clothes the girl in front of you is wearing? You cannot keep hold of your hormones if the girl beside you is wearing something which shows more flesh than you are used to? What do you mean by you can’t control yourself? You’ll end up raping her? What are you? Some untamed animal? Years of education, nurturing and values can go down the drain because hey, who cares? She was wearing something she wasn’t supposed to, after all.

If the education system of this country, the moral background of the society we live in and the environment we grow up in is only producing people like you then I am very sorry to be born in a place like this. Even not ever being born would have been better (that reminds me we also have an arrangement for that too, courtesy our extravagant performance in practicing female foeticide.)

My country, India, is a proud (yes, that’s the keyword) rank holder for one of the most unsafe places for women on earth to exist. Politicians (ministers, no less) give excuses like “boys will always do mistakes” and some (a well renowned paedophile himself) even have the shame to say, “she (the victim) should have called him (rapist) bhaiya (brother)”. You see, madness is not a rarity here.

Yes you are the same people who’ll beat a guy to pulp if he happens to be your sister’s legitimate boyfriend, but you’ll shower a lonesome woman walking down the street with hoots of screaming lust because you can. Yeah, just because you can.


Yes. You, Sir, are a hypocrite of the first order veiled under the mask of some so called “traditions”. And I can give you no more credit than that.

Only if, only if parents taught their sons to respect girls rather than barking instructions to their daughters, we could have had a better a place to live in.

“Don’t wear that dress, your thighs are unreasonably exposed.”

“Don’t be so close to that boy. No need to have guy-friends.”

“Don’t go out that late at night. It’s not safe.”

Even if I did wear that unreasonably exposing dress, even if I did get closer to that guy — just as friends, no more — only because I thought of him as  a good person and even if I did go out late at night, does that give someone the right to misbehave with me? Is it all that takes for a guy to rape a girl?

Here’s one tip to keep your “uncontrollable” hormones in check: imagine the girl you’re about to pounce upon, is your sister. Imagine the girl wearing that exposing dress is your daughter. Think of the mother you love who’s also a woman. Imagine someone doing something like that to your  people. It hurt, eh? It should. And please, for God’s sake, do realize what kind of scum you are.

It’s only because of people like you, that parents think of their daughters as if they are some type of a burden. And it’s only because of guys like you, that there runs a misconception that “All boys are the same.” No they’re not. I have come across men who think girls are just like boys. There are some who think girls are even better than boys. And yes, even if a rare species, I know a lot of hardcore male feminists too. And they do exist — not in some parallel universe but in the same one that we do.

Anwesha Tripathy

image source: J. Schreier, Flickr Creative Commons


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